Tips for Keeping the Fire Burning with a Long Distance Boyfriend

It does not matter if your boyfriend is far away permanently or just for a few months, you need to be able to communicate with him. The key to any relationship, especially long distance relationships, is communication. Many men are not good at communicating with their girlfriends on a regular basis. Add a few hundred miles between your boyfriend and you and his communicating with you will all but drop off the face of the earth. To keep a relationship going with your long distance boyfriend you are the one that needs to keep the communication happening. It is up to you to find unique ways to communicate and make sure that you get the connection that you need with your long distance boyfriend.

The first thing that you need to know is that many times when you send your long distance boyfriend different types of communications he will not respond. This does not mean he did not get them. It also does not mean that your long distance boyfriend did not enjoy hearing from you. On the contrary it just means that his brain did not register that you may want to hear back from him. If this bothers you when you are trying to communicate with your long distance boyfriend, you will need to speak up. Letting the aggravation of not getting an acknowledgement of your communications will lead to bitter feelings that may cause the two of you to break up.

Looking for love quotes for him? Sending him pictures about your day? Those are all great ideas to express yourself so he would know you miss him.

The second thing you need to do is to vary how you communicate with your long distance boyfriend. Repeating the same type of communications will make him feel like you are trying to smother him. For example, if the only way you keep in touch with your long distance boyfriend is through phone calls, he may start to think you are trying to keep track of what he is doing at all times. Men need there space. Even with being hundreds of miles away from you, your boyfriend can begin to feel smothered if you do not vary the types of communications you have with him.

Make a habit of sending him a hand written letter at least every two weeks. This will show that you are dedicated enough to the relationship to take the time to sit down and actually write out your feelings. This is the best communication type for expressing all those sappy feelings you are having. Your long distance boyfriend will appreciate this because he will not feel like he needs to reply to any of the heart felt remarks until he is ready to

A long distance relationship is going to take more effort then the usual. Your boyfriend is not just down the road and therefore needs to be communicated with a little differently. A long distance boyfriend needs to know that you are there and care for him, but not feel smothered. If you follow this advice you will be able to make your relationship that much stronger for having endured the hundreds of miles that are between you.



Julia Arostegi lives in California USA. She took Developmental Communication at the University of California and finished her studies in 2012. She is currently the managing director of California Magazine. She is also a blogger, content enthusiast and a photographer.