Why This Teen Thinks Parents Should Spy On Their Kids

Growing up and becoming a teenage mother, I often wish my mother had spied on me. It wasn’t easy being a high school student and dealing with peer pressure as well as having a single mother who worked all the time. There were a lot of days when I wouldn’t even see my mother before bedtime. No one to help with homework, cook us dinner, or just sit and listen to our boy problems and give us advice. Therefore, my sister and I relied on our friends for advice and comfort.

It began around the age of 14 when I became sexually active and my mother didn’t have any idea. Sure, I had evidence in my room and backpack, but she was never home to know what was going on. Sneaking out wasn’t even something I had to do. If I wanted to do something, I would just tell my mother, but with her being at work, she had no way of knowing. So, I would go to parties, hang out with boys, drink, and smoke pot. It was also around this time that I was having sex.

When I was 15, I became pregnant, and the first thing my mother asked was HOW? WHEN? She blamed herself for not being around enough and often times I blame her as well. Not that I didn’t love my baby, but being a teenage mom was not easy and not anything I would recommend to any young girls.

I am now 30 and have 4 kids of my own. I am fortunate enough to be able to stay at home with them but with the cost of living today, not everyone has that option. The one thing I wish my mother had done was snoop and ask more questions and follow me. It’s not that I was a horrible kid or got into trouble, I just made a lot of bad decisions. I would have been mad at my mother for spying, but I would have gotten over it and probably made better life decisions.

There is a degree to which spying is acceptable. Parents should know what their children are doing in school. They should know who their children are hanging around with, and where they are going AT ALL TIMES! It is so easy to get trapped by peer pressure, but being a parent who stays on top of everything is invaluable.

I am doing the same from my kids by keeping a strict watch on their activities right from a young age without interfering in their privacy and always tell them to keep their smartphones on whenever they go out along with a useful app that can track it in case it is lost or stolen, which I learnt from https://spyphonetools.com/how-to/how-to-track-a-cell-phone-location-without-them-knowing/, so that I can track their location.

Parents should not be afraid to ask their children questions, have their friends over so you can get to know them, meet their parents. There are lots of tell tale signs of drug usage, and if you suspect it, by all means, SPY! It will save your children’s lives. They will be mad at first, but as they grow up they will understand and at some point in their lives they will thank you.

I don’t think parents need to invade their children’s privacy, but there are different ways to know what your children are doing. It all comes down to open communication. Children don’t want to be judged by their parents but guided. I think that so many situations can be avoided if parents only look harder and try to be parents instead of friends with their children. It is our job to be parents and teach our children right from wrong as well as consequences of their actions.



Julia Arostegi lives in California USA. She took Developmental Communication at the University of California and finished her studies in 2012. She is currently the managing director of California Magazine. She is also a blogger, content enthusiast and a photographer.